Building Others’ Self-Esteem
Building Others’ Self-Esteem
At True Balance Karate in Downers Grove, Illinois, we run a social-emotional learning program called True Character. I’m Master H, the owner and chief instructor here at the studio. With two master’s degrees in education, I helped design this curriculum to support students of all ages, from preschoolers to adults in their 80s.
This month, we’re focusing on self-esteem, which we define as:
“I like myself and I feel good about my choices.”
We’ve already talked about why self-esteem is important, how it helps us achieve goals, and how we can build our own confidence by recognizing our strengths and asking for help when needed. But self-esteem isn’t just about ourselves—it’s also about how we can build up the people around us.
Listen with Care
One of the most powerful ways to boost someone else’s self-esteem is to truly listen. Not the half-hearted “uh-huh, you don’t say” kind of listening—but focused, genuine attention. When you listen carefully, you can follow up with specific encouragement, like:
“That was a smart choice you made when you did this…” or
“I think it was really thoughtful when you chose to do that…”
Specific feedback shows you were paying attention, and it makes the other person feel valued.
Compliment Their Strengths
Another way to build self-esteem is through compliments that highlight strengths. Instead of vague praise, be specific: “You’re really good at organizing—could you help me with this?” That not only boosts confidence but also reminds them that their abilities matter.
Point Out the Positives
Whether it’s giving a high five, recognizing an achievement, or celebrating progress, pointing out the good things you see in others helps them see it too. Friends can even make it a shared activity, like keeping a journal together of what each of you does well, reinforcing growth and positivity.
Show That You Care
Sometimes, it’s as simple as eye contact and attention. When someone knows you care—when they feel they matter to you—their self-esteem grows. They see that they are worthy of being heard, supported, and appreciated.
At the studio, we’ll be practicing this with role-playing activities where students give each other compliments and encouragement. It helps kids learn firsthand how powerful it can be to build others up.
As we continue exploring self-esteem this month, let’s remember: it’s not about being “the greatest” by putting others down—it’s about lifting each other up so we all grow stronger together.
See you on the mat!
True Balance Karate was founded in 2012 by Master Sue and Paul Helsdon.
We offer kids karate lessons for pre-school children ages 3-6 and elementary age kids ages 7 and up. These lessons are designed to develop the critical building blocks kids need — specialized for their age group — for school excellence and later success in life.
Our adult martial arts training is a complete adult fitness and conditioning program for adults who want to lose weight, get (and stay) in shape, or learn self-defense in a supportive environment.
Instructors can answer questions or be contacted 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 630-663-2000. You can also contact us here. True Balance Karate is at 406 Ogden Ave Downers Grove Illinois, 60515 (next to CVS) Check out our Facebook!